A doula is a non - medical companion who supports a birthing person and their family through labour, or who supports a new family in the early weeks as they grow
There is a doula for every birthing person, no matter where they have planned to give birth and what type of birth they are hoping for. As doulas don't get involved in the medical side of birth they can support parents through every birth, whether a homebirth or a caesarean.
The role of a doula is not just to support the birthing person but to ensure any birth partners also feel calm, confident and secure in their role.
Birthing a baby is a life changing event but so is witnessing one being born. It's completely normal that birth partners may feel nervous, excited, or even scared but this means that they will be full of adrenalin which stops the lovely calm atmosphere of oxytocin vibes needed for birth. A doula can be there to calm and reassure, reducing tension in the room and allowing oxytocin to flourish.
I know that having a baby is an expensive time with a seemingly huge list of things to buy. If someone really wants a doula but is worrying about the list of baby things they need to buy, I would always recommend that they sit down and list their priorities to bring clarity to whether paying for a doula is worth it to to them.
There is evidence to show that having a doula can mean:
- A reduced risk of interventions such as induction, instrumental births and Caesarean birth.
- Less likelihood of needing an epidural and other forms of pain relief
- A shorter labour
- A more positive experience of birth
- An increased likelihood of achieving desired breastfeeding goals.
- A reduced risk of experiencing PND
If you're interested in hiring me as your doula the level of support you have is entirely up to you, and every package is tailored to the family's requirements. Want me antenatally and postnatally but not at the birth, no problem. Want me at the birth but already got your antenatal sessions covered, that's fine too.
As with all relationships some people will be more your cup of tea than others. If you're looking for a gentle, all natural earth mother then I might not be the doula for you.
I like to think I'm calm and relaxed but I'm also honest, pragmatic and down to earth; I don't lie about labour and birth or parenting, if you've got pregnant then you're grown up enough to know what to expect. I feel that my job is to inform you of the process of birth and all of your options surrounding labour and birth, and then help you feel confident to make those decisions yourself.
I have no bias about your birth or parenting choices, and I work hard to be culturally aware and safe. If there is a cultural tradition you wish to follow that I am not aware of then I will go and research to allow me to work in a way that is appropriate.
I'm always happy to have a chat with no obligations or expectations. If we get on then we can meet for a coffee and a more in depth chat. If I'm not the one for you then that's fine as well, it won't offend me.